Tuesday, September 8, 2015

The Narcissist's Reptilian Stare



THE NARCISSIST'S REPTILIAN STARE.....
have you experienced it?



It's kinda unnerving, that stare the narcissist gets. It reminds me of the movies of Dracula....that very intense stare meant to unnerve you. It's a look of intense evil....and focused on you like a laser beam. 

Done by a man during the love bombing phase, some women initially see this as sexual and seductive, but later, when it's used when the narcissist is angry, it can create fear, and in fact, it's meant to ...intimidate, and it does the job, since it's coupled with a complete lack of empathy or remorse, and an obvious ugliness. It FEELS like what it is....you're being intensely focused on by a totally amoral person. This reptilian stare makes you very uncomfortable, and that's the intent, and it's often coupled with the silent treatment. 


The reptilian stare is an odd, difficult to explain form of abuse, but needless to say, a loving relationship is not based on intimidation like this. You should not feel unsafe, but you do. The fear you feel is nebulous....you have no idea what's going on in the narcissist's mind, but you know he's as cold as ice.

This reptilian look in unsettling because it has a predatory aspect, and it often happens rather suddenly, when you disagree or are not sufficiently worshipful of the N's awesomeness. It's an aspect of narcissistic rage, but instead of outrageous anger, it's like watching a fuse on a bomb. It's intense, hypnotic, and makes your blood run cold. 

Perhaps you've experienced this, perhaps not. I find it as unnerving as that contorted look of pure evil you see when the mask completely drops. This is another way that the narcissist may appear without the mask.

6 comments:

  1. Ive seen and experienced this look of evil. Its very scary. I felt unsafe as i look back and now realize that i wasnt seeing "something", it really was a reptilian look!

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  2. I have seen it. I thought at the time, it was like looking at the flat, dead eyes of a viper from hell and I could almost see the forked tongue flicking.I will never forget that look.

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    1. Me too! I even thought I seen her slither once

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  3. Before I knew about narcissism I was trying to explain to her when was upsetting me. I didnt have the words... all I could say was she would look at me with cold, dead eyes. It is soul chilling.

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  4. Before I knew about narcissism I was trying to explain to her when was upsetting me. I didnt have the words... all I could say was she would look at me with cold, dead eyes. It is soul chilling.

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  5. I remember my initial meeting with the N. I immediately knew that it was a stranger danger situation. I took one look at him and I knew that he was everything he turned out to be. At the time I was younger and didn't trust my instincts. Fortunately for me I wasn't easily controlled but I was naturally kind and empathetic. I believe that rebel in me saved me from my demise. I remember waking up one night and he was sitting at the edge of the bed staring at me when I opened my eyes. Then he quickly left. I once came down the stairs one morning after taking a shower to find him in a drunken sleep sprawled across my living room floor. To my knowledge, he had no key and he was not there before I went to sleep. I live alone and I can also remember him saying to me, "I could literally kill you and no one would find you for days". Never did I imagine that he was thinking this but I thought back to that icy stare he gave me when I first met him. I used to act nicely to him only to receive his ass to kiss but when I would call him names and berate him he would treat me royally. He has since been incarcerated and I know recognize the lifeline I was thrown for a second chance. I am grateful to not have any ties to him and to walk away with only minor emotional pain.

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