Friday, September 25, 2015

IS THE NARCISSIST TRULY HAPPY WITHOUT YOU?

I mean, on FB the N SEEMS happy. (Uh, checking the FB page of your NarcX is called narc dipping, so don't) But, anyway, they SEEM to be having a wonderful time and be sooo much in love, and all that. You gotta know that the narcissist is never happy for long. They get bored and never have enough supply, so as the years go by, they get older and less desirable, sad and pathetic....and by that time, you will have moved on to a happy, loving relationship. Naw, unlike the N, it doesn't happen INSTANTLY, but it definitely will happen for you. This piece was written by Melonie Tonya Evans, a therapist, and about the ultimate life outcome of the narcissist. I've seen it with my own eyes, and believe me, this is a good read...

The Fate Worse than Death

Please do not envy your ex narcissist. Because the plight for narcissists is the same for anyone who keeps extracting from life in order to avoid themself.
Eventually the ability and energy to get out of bed every day and feed the insatiable need to offset the inner demons runs out.
Narcissist get old and sick, they lose their looks, their charm and their charisma. They lose their formidable ability to seduce, dominate and intimidate people. They are not the immortal Gods they would like to think they are.
Eventually all narcissists end up facing their tormented self that they have made a lifelong career of avoiding.

Eventually, just like the picture of Dorian Gray one day the narcissist comes face to face with their most horrifying nightmare – the tortured self that no amount of avoidance, materiality, manipulation, exploits or lies could avoid.
They meet the real tortured self that bears no resemblance to the pathologically constructed False Self.

When this occurs the narcissist has no time left to do anything about it…it’s the end of the line, there are no solutions and the ghastly portrait doesn’t lie.
The narcissist does not have the privilege of loving memories, of the knowing of contribution, or the feelings of having lived a great and solid life of integrity in order to accept his or her mortality and die peacefully.

Instead the narcissist is a ‘machine’ based on only the immediate need for narcissistic supply, which has to be constantly fed to relieve a tortured soul. Therefore the tortured soul is ‘the last reality standing’.

So don’t buy into the ridiculous illusion the narcissist is having a great life and re-read this article every time you entertain those thoughts…

11 comments:

  1. This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing

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  2. Melanie is NOT a therapist. She has no license in any country.

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    1. So what...she has experience and good understanding and advice
      Gary

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  3. Who cares i love this and intuitively I know it's right. He will be lonely, he will stuff up the next women's life, just like he did the one before mine and deep inside he knows he's a pile of scum for what hes done. And when he gets old his muscles will go and his hair will keep on receding and he will be an old shallow empty and alone. Perfect :)

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  4. I wanted to help her avoid this pattern but I also play a part and the savior I am not . I need to save my but now .

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  5. My ex-Narc married one of the women he had waiting in the wings. They have only been married 6 months and already taking separate vacations! I know he wasn't alone on his vacation! I tried to warn her but she thinks she is different, something special, better than all the rest and can heal him. He even told me she was his meal ticket home. I am so glad I finally put him in the past and moved on. He is a text book Narc and Karma will take care of him in the end.

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  6. This is so true and makes me feel better.

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  7. I just get so mad sometimes that I have to work through all of this while he gets to compartmentalize and live in a fantasy world where he's responsible for nothing. That's his version of happiness and it's not fair.

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  8. They are evil, vindictive, raging lunatics. I truly know now that there NO CURE.

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  9. This is very weird. This is exactly as I would describe my ex. I have been intuiting a lot of this for a long time but after we broke up after 34 years. Its been very hard. I thought I should buy him a Christmas present so I bought a copy of Oscar Wilde's Picture of Dorian Gray but I didn't have the courage to post it. Maybe I will this time.

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